SEL Focus: Teaching children resilience and reflection

Teaching children resilience (Self-Management) and reflection (Self-Awareness) are the SEL topics for the second nine weeks.

The article, 10 Tips for Raising Resilient Kids by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., summarizes a compelling approach to raising resilient children. Resilience is not something kids are born with or born without. It is a skill that can be taught. As parents, it is not our job to always be there and/or rescue our children. It is our job to teach our children how to problem solve and figure out how they can handle challenges. Tartakovsky advocates that we provide kids with enough practice and repetition for them “to figure out what works and what doesn’t.”

Teaching kids to be reflective is also an important skill that enables children to learn from their mistakes. One way to teach kids how to be self-reflective is to provide “non-judgmental and non-emotional” feedback of the problem and ways to correct the problem. Slowing kids down and helping them reflect on past behavior allows children to become more thoughtful and self-aware. How Can We Help Kids With Self-Regulation? from Child Mind Institute reviews ways to “help kids learn to control their emotions, and resist impulsive behavior.”